About the invitation
What's the cutest way to ask someone out?
Make it personal and keep the pressure low. With AskForDates you build a small invitation that sounds like the two of you: your inside jokes, an idea for food and plans, a letter from you. Your date taps through, picks a day and time and sends you the answer. If it's a no, there's a kind way out with one tap.
How do I make a date invitation online?
Pick a template, add your date's name and yours, then change whatever you like: the question, the jokes, the day, food and plans. You see every change in a live preview. When it's ready, send the link by WhatsApp, iMessage or any other app. It takes about two minutes.
Does my date need an app or an account?
No. Your date taps the link and the invitation opens in the browser on any phone, tablet or laptop. You don't need an account either.
Is AskForDates really free?
Yes. All templates, games, themes and sending are free. Later there will be an optional Heart pack for €2.99 one time, for example with your own photos. No subscription, no coins.
Where is my invite stored?
Your drafts stay on your device. When you send the short link, your browser encrypts the invite before it reaches us. All we store is that encrypted content, which we can't read. The key is only in the link after the #, and it never reaches our server. We delete it a year after the date, and you can delete the short link yourself anytime. Rather keep it all off our server? Use the long link: the whole invite is compressed into the link itself. Either way, anyone who has the link can open the invite, so only send it to your date.
What if they want to say no?
There's a kind way out, on by default: one tap, no pressure and a friendly message back to you. The runaway No button is a joke, not a trap. You can also let the No button stay put like a normal button.
How do I find out what my date picked?
At the end there's a ticket with the day, time, food and plans. With one tap your date sends you the answer on WhatsApp, or copies the text for any other app, and a second tap adds the date to their calendar. Add your number when you send the invite so the message lands right with you.
Can I change the invite after sending it?
With the short link, yes: change your draft and tap “Send” again. The same link then shows the new version. With the long link the invite lives inside the link itself, so after a change you just send the new link.
Is the secret code real security?
No, it's a game. The code is part of the link, and after a few wrong tries the lock opens anyway. It's there for suspense, not for security.
Does it work for promposals, bridesmaid proposals or anniversaries?
Yes. There are templates for Valentine's Day, prom and homecoming and big questions like bridesmaid, maid of honor or best man. Every text can be changed, so it also works for an anniversary or a night out with your best friend.
For groups: polls and Secret Santa
How do I find a date that works for everyone in a group?
Create a free poll with the date finder and share the link in your group chat. Everyone taps the days they're free and you all see the best day or stretch of days right away, for a trip, a birthday or a dinner. No account and no app.
Does everyone need an account or an app to vote?
No. Anyone with the link opens the poll in the browser, adds a name and taps their days. No account, no app, no email address. Your own polls are remembered on your device so you can find them again.
Can I plan a trip over several days?
Yes. Pick “Trip / vacation” when you create the poll and the date finder looks for several days in a row that work for as many people as possible. For a birthday, a dinner or a reunion it shows the best single day.
Can I draw names for Secret Santa here?
Yes. Add names, keep couples apart if you like and draw. Everyone gets their own private link that shows who they're buying for. Nobody draws themselves and nobody needs an email address or an account. Try the Secret Santa generator.
