Questions to ask your crush: 100 ideas for text and in person

How to ask your crush questions without overthinking it

Asking your crush questions is a low-risk way to show interest. You're not confessing anything, you're just curious. A few things make it go smoother:

• One question, then listen. Especially over text. Sending five questions in a row feels like a form to fill out.
• Answer it yourself too. If you ask about their favorite comfort movie, tell them yours. That's how a question turns into a conversation.
• Callbacks beat new questions. “Did you end up finishing that show?” shows you remembered, which is more charming than any clever line.
• Match their energy. Short replies? Keep it light and give them space. Long replies with questions back? They're enjoying it.

The questions below are sorted by vibe. Each section says whether it works better over text or face to face. Most work for both.

Easy openers (great over text)

When you don't know what to text your crush, start with something that takes three seconds to answer and is easy to reply to.

1. What's the best part of your day so far?
2. Seen anything good lately? I need something new to watch.
3. What song have you had on repeat this week?
4. Are you a “reply right away” person or a “reply in three days” person?
5. Got any plans for the weekend?
6. What's something that made you smile today?
7. What's the most random photo in your camera roll right now?
8. Did you end up doing that thing you mentioned?
9. Quick, I need a snack recommendation. What's yours?
10. What's your current obsession?
11. What's the weirdest thing you've searched online this week?
12. Can you recommend a podcast or a channel? I'm out of things to listen to.

Opener with a callback

Okay, I have to know: did you ever finish that show you were telling me about? I need to know if it's worth starting 😄

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Funny questions to ask your crush

Making someone laugh is one of the easiest ways to stand out. These work brilliantly in person, where you can see their reaction, and are just as fun in a group chat.

13. What's the dumbest way you've ever hurt yourself?
14. If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be?
15. What's the most embarrassing thing you've done in front of someone you liked?
16. What's a harmless conspiracy theory you secretly kind of believe?
17. If you had to rename yourself, what name would you pick?
18. What's the worst haircut you've ever had? Proof required.
19. What's the most chaotic thing you've seen happen in class or at work?
20. If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest?
21. What's the weirdest food combo you actually like?
22. What's your most irrational fear?
23. What's the funniest autocorrect fail you've ever sent?
24. If your life had a laugh track, which moment would get the biggest laugh?

Cute questions to ask your crush

Sweet but not too much. These show you care about what makes them happy, without putting them on the spot.

25. What's your comfort movie?
26. What's the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
27. What's a small thing that makes you feel loved?
28. What's your favorite memory from this year?
29. Do you have a lucky charm or a little ritual?
30. Which song always makes you think of summer?
31. Do you believe in soulmates?
32. What's the sweetest thing someone has ever said to you?
33. If we were in a movie together, what kind of movie would it be?
34. What's something you'd love to learn with someone else?

Getting to know you questions

These go a little beyond small talk. They work best once you've had a few conversations and want to know what your crush is really like.

35. What are you into that most people don't know about?
36. What's your family like?
37. Do you have siblings, and are you close?
38. What do you do when you can't sleep?
39. What's your favorite way to spend a rainy day?
40. What's a topic you could talk about for hours?
41. What's your favorite thing about where you grew up?
42. What's next for you this year?
43. What music do you listen to when nobody's around?
44. What's a hidden gem in this town that everyone should know about?
45. Who's someone you really look up to?
46. What's a game you're unbeatable at?

Tip: Number 44 doubles as a date idea. If they name a place, you've got the perfect reason to suggest going there together.

Questions to keep a text conversation going

The chat is getting slow? These are made for texting. They're playful, invite a photo, a song or a rating, and give you something to answer back.

47. Okay, important question: what's the best pizza topping?
48. Rate your day out of ten. What would've made it an eleven?
49. Send me the last photo you took (if it's not embarrassing).
50. Describe your day using only a movie title.
51. What's something you're looking forward to this week?
52. What are you having for dinner tonight?
53. Recommend me one song and I'll send you one back.
54. Tell me something about you I'd never guess.
55. What's one thing that annoyed you today? Vent away.
56. What's the last thing you laughed at online? Send it.

Questions to ask your crush in person

Face to face, the best questions are the ones that come from the moment: where you are, what you're doing, what's in front of you. Here are some that work almost anywhere.

57. What are you drinking? Is it any good?
58. How do you know everyone here?
59. Have you been here before?
60. What's the best thing on this menu?
61. Want to be on my team for this?
62. What are you listening to?
63. What did you think of the class (or the movie, or the game)?
64. Have you tried that new place around the corner?
65. What's the story behind your keychain (or sticker, or tattoo)?
66. Can you help me decide: this one or that one?

Flirty questions to ask your crush

Flirty, but still cute and comfortable. Use these once you're talking regularly and the vibe is good. If they laugh and play along, that's a great sign. If they dodge, no harm done.

67. What's your type, or do you not have one?
68. Have you ever had a crush on someone you didn't expect?
69. What's the first thing you notice about someone?
70. What do you think your best feature is?
71. What would you say if I asked you out?
72. Do you get nervous around people you like?
73. Who do you text first when something good happens?
74. What's your idea of a cute first date?
75. If we hung out this weekend, what would you want to do?
76. What did you think of me when we first met?

Deep questions to ask your crush

For late-night texts or a long walk. Only when you already talk a lot and there's trust. Share your own answer first if you want them to open up. You'll find many more on our page of deep questions to ask.

77. What's a song that gets you through tough days?
78. What's a fear you're trying to get over?
79. When do you feel most like yourself?
80. Who knows you better than anyone?
81. What's something you wish people understood about you?
82. What's a moment that changed you a little?
83. When do you feel most confident?
84. What's a promise you've made to yourself?

Questions that hint you like them

Not quite a confession, but close. These open the door, and how they answer tells you a lot. Ask them in a relaxed moment, not in front of a crowd.

85. Are you seeing anyone right now?
86. What would you do if someone you liked asked you out?
87. Do you prefer being asked out or doing the asking?
88. What's one thing I don't know about you but should?
89. So when are we finally hanging out?
90. Would you want to go to the game (or the concert, or the fair) with me?
91. Would it be weird if I said I was hoping you'd text me today?
92. Can I tell you something kind of embarrassing?

If their answers sound promising, the next step is asking them out. Here's how to ask someone out and how to do it over text.

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Questions for school (great for teens)

For when your crush is in your class, on your team or in the same hallway. School gives you a shared world, so use it. Homecoming, prom or a school trip coming up? Even better.

93. What's your favorite class, and which one do you dread?
94. Who's the funniest teacher you've ever had?
95. Which club or team would you join if you had the time?
96. Are you going to the dance (or the game) on Friday?
97. What do you want to do after high school?
98. What's the best school trip you've been on?
99. Honestly, what's the best thing in the cafeteria?
100. Do you want to study together sometime?

Tip: Keep it kind and private. Asking personal questions in front of the whole group can feel like being put on display. And if your crush says they'd rather not answer, that's okay. The same goes for “no thanks”: respect it, stay friendly and move on. If a dance is coming up, our promposal ideas might help.

What their answers can (and can't) tell you

A good question can't read someone's mind. But how they answer often says more than what they answer.

None of these are rules. Some people are just slow texters or shy in person. If you want to know, the honest way is to ask.

Turn the questions into a quiz

Here's a fun twist once you know each other a bit: instead of asking questions, let your crush answer questions about you. A little “How well do you know me?” quiz is playful, shows a bit of courage and ends with an invite they can say yes to with one tap.

psst … this makes it easier

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